I remember what would have been my five year anniversary with Sam. I had planned a 5 year party. It would celebrate our coming out the other side of our struggles together. But there was no party. Instead I was alone in a empty house. We were going through a nasty divorce and I was an emotional wreck. I was hurting more than I could have ever imagined. I took the day off work, wallowed, cried, drank, and I cuddled my puppy. This past week we would have celebrated ten years. What a difference time and healing makes. I treated myself to fancy coffee on the way to work. No tears this day, it was actually a fantastic day. After work we had a family dinner out and some shopping.
I have most of everything deleted on social media of my life with Sam because of the “on this day” feature. I don’t want to be reminded of that time. And honestly a lot of my posts looking back I see the lies I believed and it makes me mad how blinded by love I was. (Did everyone see it but me? Or were we all fooled?) I had been tagged in wedding pictures ten years ago that popped up this week. It was nice to look back and see. I loved my dress, my friends and the memories. But it was also a little sad looking back and knowing it was all a big lie. I wish I could know what the hell was going through his mind in the pictures I saw this week. Because I am no longer emotionally attached to Sam or the situation I am able to look back without is destroying my emotional health.
Unlike my broken hearted five year “anniversary” this year I was able to look back and what my life could have been, and I be grateful for being able to get out. I don’t think remembering my past is bad. Certain dates were always important to me, I won’t and can’t just forget those dates. Look at my life now. It’s a dream come true. Sure there are issues with my life, marriage and family like everyone else’s, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. If I hadn’t been through what I experienced, I wouldn’t appreciate what I have as much.
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