Dear friend going through a difficult divorce,
I understand what you are going through. I know how you feel. Details might look different on the outside. But deep down, it's the same hurt and devastation no one understands unless they have gone through a divorce. I get it. Since I can't do anything to make it easier, hopefully it is comforting to know someone really understands. What I can do is tell you what I wish someone had told me or what I would tell myself if I had to relive those days.
It's ok to miss him. You prepared your whole life with him. It's normal no matter what he did.
You are not a failure just because you have a failed marriage. It takes two to be married. If Sam had actually tried to change his life. We would have made it.
It's ok to cry. Scream. Let it out. You will feel better after I promise.
You can still be a Christian even though you are divorced. Maybe it was the church I went to. Maybe it was how I was raised. Maybe it's my bad attitude. But when I left Sam I had also just miscarried. I left God too because I was mad. I knew God had wanted me to marry Sam. Why!? I ignored God and didn't want anything to do with him. He couldn't care one bit about me if he took my baby and my husband. If I had just ran to Him instead of running away, I could have saved myself even more heartache.
I don't regret much of anything about my marriage with Sam. I wasn't perfect, but I tried my hardest. It wasn't until we split that I had regrets. I wish I could have handled how I reacted better. I did lots of stupid unnecessary things. If I had tried to have a relationship with God to fill my empty heart instead of others, I would have much less to regret. Be careful how you act for a while. Make sure it isn't something you will regret several years down the road when you look back and think "What was I thinking? Was that even me?"
Love you!!
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